To All the Lost Men Taking the ‘Red Pill’
Choose love and acceptance over hatred and envy
It’s so easy to blame others when we come up short.
In the dating world, blaming the other person in a relationship — or hopeful relationship — is almost always our default. We don’t want to accept blame when our actions are hurtful. We don’t want to admit when we don’t do enough. And we especially don’t want to accept when we, ourselves, are not enough.
When we are rejected or broken up with, we often fail to look ourselves in the mirror and figure out why this happened. We rarely sideline our emotions to take an honest look at our actions — or even our fit with that person.
Many times, we blame the other person entirely or accept the depressing notion that we are not good enough.
Both of these paths are hurtful to our progression as human beings.
Placing all of the blame on the other person gives us no opportunity to grow. It forgives us for any wrongdoing, leaving the door open for that wrongdoing to continue in future relationships.
Accepting that we are not good enough lowers our confidence and pushes us towards believing we will never be good enough — no matter what we do or who we are with.
