Singleness is one of mankind’s toughest obstacles. It is a state of confusion — a state where we feel lost, lonely, and like we’re not enough.
This is a feeling anyone and everyone feels at some point. Rich or poor, male or female, it is a hill everyone must climb.
The lone wolf is often a character subject to mass marvel and polarity. The lone wolf can’t possibly be happy on their own, can they? They can’t possibly enjoy taking this journey alone — putting all their efforts towards achievements they will celebrate in darkness, in solitude, without as much as the warm embrace of a loving partner.
Not all lone wolves are the same. One form may bury itself in work, shuttered by the often cold feelings of love — or what it thought was love. Feelings it doesn’t wish to remember nor see again. Feelings that can be suppressed or blinded by external achievements in this material world.
Another form is not interested in suppression or blinding. It is not interested in closing itself off to the cold feelings of love because it knows the warmth it can bring. It values its time, energy, and feelings, however, over company that doesn’t bring it to a higher place of love and understanding.
This form may have been through the wringer, facing heartache and the self-doubt that comes with it. It may have contemplated what happened, where it went wrong, and how it screwed things up. Eventually, it acknowledged a simple lack of compatibility, moving forward with strength and grace to the next venture.
It focused on itself. Working hard, yes — not to fill a hole with external gains but to satisfy its personal inner being. It fell back in love with itself, accepting its strengths and weaknesses as equal pieces to the puzzle. It doesn’t focus on failures of the past or worry of the future. It focuses on what’s right in front of it. It honors the future by acting in the now. It is thankful for the ups and downs of life, knowing there is no good without bad. It is thankful for life, for breath, knowing nothing more than simply living is required.
This lone wolf seeks contentment and peace through whatever form from which it may come. It goes with the flow of life, knowing that what it needs will come to it when necessary.
In his book “Greenlights,” Matthew McConaughey succinctly wrote, “Live what you believe.” In life, too many of us sacrifice our beliefs for the beliefs of others. To be single, and to be at peace with being single, is to find what we believe and live that life. To live our life in only the ways we know how and let in only those who do the same without impeding our progress.
Living life is like dancing to a song. Some parts are more exciting than others, but all parts are important just the same. Some points are better solo as some points are better with a partner.
It may feel like everyone else’s dance is being thoroughly enjoyed with a partner while you sway to yourself. The pace of a song doesn’t determine its quality, though. Your dance may require a partner anytime now.
If it doesn’t, though, you shouldn’t force a partner to dance to your song when their song isn’t compatible. They won’t know how and you won’t know how to dance to their song, either.
To see that point, where your dance does require a partner, you must continue to dance. You must soak in your song and learn to dance the way you are supposed to dance. Dance on your own today, learn your song by heart, and the remainder of your song will pick up the pace when the timing is right.